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How not to get mad

April 22, 2013 Comments

I’m not even going to try to get mad anymore.

“I’m not even going to try to get mad anymore. I just have to learn to expect the lowest from the people I thought the highest of.” anon

We get upset when our expectations aren’t met. But who says our expectations are right or reasonable? And even if they are, who doesn’t make mistakes? Really, if you understand that people might sometimes not meet your expectations (nor you theirs), and that sometimes they might let you down (and you them), then it’s easier to handle when it happens.

If you need to talk something through with someone, by all means do it. But if you’re going to get angry (and that’s the ego we’re talking about) every time someone lets you down, you’re going to be pretty angry pretty much all of the time. And what good is that? Angry people end up driving everyone away, so pretty soon there may be no-one left to let you down, or lift you up!

Forget anger. Try a different approach. Try understanding. Try compassion. Try patience. Try communication. Try education. Try leading by example. But forget anger. –BJ

Are your expectations of people too high? Too low?

About the Author:

As far back as she can remember, BJ Burman has always been interested in spirituality and religion, both academically and personally. Especially personally. When she became personally involved in Eastern philosophy and religion, she became specifically interested in death and dying (and what really happens to us), and in karma, and the way it operates in our lives.

Over the years, she has studied and researched in these two areas--death & dying, and karma, particularly from the Buddhist and Hindu perspectives. Both these great traditions, as well as some sections of Christianity, have so much to teach on the reality of life, death and rebirth.

BJ believes that gaining an understanding of karma is vital in living consciously as an aware and awakening human being. In a world where we so desperately seek happiness, karma is key.